You’re already sure of the things you want to do in life but in the next moment, all your aspirations start to fade all of a sudden. Your clock stopped. Everyone seems to walk in fast forward. Everyone, except you. I have been there. Actually, I’m still there. I’m still in that moment of my life where I don’t know what to do anymore. It’s indeed a cruel word out there. That’s why, when I stumbled into one article, it made me think of something, what if the astronomical idea of parallel universes was true?
What if there’s another person out there in the galaxy who’s also struggling just the way you do? What if there is another version of you out there? But the difference is she’s striving. She’s not stuck in life. She still continues persevering until she could be able to free herself from her own cage.
She’s not like you. Perhaps she’s stronger, maybe she is unstoppable. Perhaps she’s the alternate you. We’ll never know but the thing is maybe, these are the qualities you don’t possess that’s why unlike her, you’re there—just there. You are stuck in the middle of chasing your dreams and being shattered by your fears. Now that you know what might be the reason why you are stuck, you now need to analyze yourself. You always ask yourself.
Why do you always feel like you’re stuck yet you have a good life that’s envied by others?
You forgot who you are
Sometimes because of the amount of happenings in your life, you forgot to look back to yourself. You forgot that the “you” still exists instead of “them”. Furthermore, you valued others before you appreciate yourself. You always save other people from their mischiefs but you, on the other hand, you’re stuck. No one dares to save you.
You need to know the importance of who you are and what you are before giving importance to others. Loving and being kind to your self is not a cliché phrase; it is what reality should really be. You’ve known this already but the problem is how would you apply it on yourself? You need to forgive yourself. We all mess up and this is a situation that is inevitable. Always remind yourself that you are enough and you don’t need anyone’s validation in order for you to go on with life.
You need to revisit your past self because by doing that, you’ll know the reason why you are there. Why you feel that you are stuck in a middle of nowhere without any turning point.
You don’t know when to start
Perfect timing is a myth. Don’t wait for the right time before you act on something, do it and make it right. Humans tend to wait for a certain situation to happen before actually doing it. Take this, for example, you were being offered a chance to recreate yourself? But since you’re a person who believes that perfect timing exists, you let that opportunity pass. What if it was already your last chance? Do you think you would still bring back the time?
The truth is there’s no such thing as “too early” or “too late”. As long as you know that it’s what your heart desires, go for it. Do everything for your own sake and don’t let the universe control you. Remember your other self? She might be in the verge of falling down, too but she’s doing her best to be able to get through it. If you’re being pulled in every direction by forces beyond your control, take time to realign yourself with what you value most in life.
You’re not getting rid of the feeling
Being stuck in life is just a feeling. It’s a feeling that you could get rid easily once you’ve realized that the opinions of doesn’t matter anymore. If you feel like you’re always going in circles until you end up feeling trapped in life, perhaps it’s time for you to alter your direction in life. Sad as it might seem, maybe you should let go of the things you thought would give your life a better meaning.
If you will let yourself get stuck, depression will take its place. Depression will suffocate you and will surely eat you alive once you will be going to let it overpower you. What are you going to do when you feel like you’re close to depression? Reach out. Call your best friends. Talk to your parents. You may not know it but they know that you’re struggling. They’re just waiting for you to take the initiative to talk to them. They will listen. They will not judge you. You want to know why? Because they care for you. They love you.
In times that we don’t have the will to continue anymore, just remember that there are still a lot of people out there who are struggling, too. Just think of the theory of multiverse. It might and might not be true. Make it as one of your motivation to go on with life. Your other self might be working really hard to persevere in life. Perhaps she’s already close to reaching her dreams and goals in life.
It’s okay to get stuck. Everyone’s been there but not everyone stayed on that situation. Don’t give up. You’ve already gone too far. As what Martin Luther King Jr. said, “If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”